Christmas 2018

I text an expat friend “Merry Christmas!” and he audios me back “Hey, Merry Christmas, Merry Christmas, it doesn’t feel like it but hey, Merry Christmas”.
My childhood memories of Christmas start with leaving wine and cookies out for Santa on Christmas Eve until the wine stopped. Then on Christmas morning waiting on the basement stairs for my parents to give the all clear, open the door, and then rush to the gifts under the tree. When I was Elisa’s age, 10, it would be quite the scene as my father handed out gifts and we would open them one by one. My father’s delight hidden by his frustration with the mess from the wrappings and the unimaginable spoils of his children. My grandmother’s refrain to “try it on”. The excitement over gifts large and small especially. My imagination engaged as my older siblings were adults and had money to buy significant gifts. I wish I could remember who bought what. Pong, air hockey, Clue were awesome.
Later, when I had kids of my own I would sit under our tree and hand out gifts. First to Aidan. Then to Aidan and Lydia. Then Aidan, Lydia, and Elisa. The excitement in their eyes as they tore open the gifts made a lifetime. It’s toned down in recent years. In part because they spend their play time on their IPads, never really needing a new toy. In part because if they need something, we get it for them. In part, because Christmas is celebrated in two homes.
On Christmas Eve, Kobe (our beagle puppy) and I went to Hairun which is the apartment complex I used to live with their mom, some six years ago. We ate a fairly typical Chinese meal the nanny prepared. The kids grandmother was taking photos with her IPad, looking all ghetto without realizing it. When it came time for gifts the mom sat under the tree and handed them out. The kids were nice and got gifts for Kobe and Sabrina. I got athletic long johns which I appreciated. I’m pretty sure I will look anything but athletic with them on.
Christmas day was my turn. I took the day off work which allowed me to sleep in to 7am when Kobe wanted me to take him outside. I live in a fairly large apartment complex and downstairs was bustling with kids going to school and adults going to work.
I made my mom’s lasagna (actually just traditional lasagna from an internet recipe), deviled eggs, and chips and dip. I ordered salad. We had a pretty full house - seven adults and five kids. I gave my kids walkie talkies. “A Star is Born” played in the background. The lasagna was a hit.
Christmas is not the same here, that is true. I’m pretty sure my parent’s Christmas wasn’t the same as their childhoods memories. My kid’s Christmas won’t be the same when they grow up. Yet we hang onto the traditions for they push us through the good times and bad times. They have the power to connect generations. And besides, the chips and dip are damn good.