Family

The day before the Halloween party Yang and I took the kids to Watson’s to buy baskets to stash the large quantities of Halloween candy they would be collecting on our behalf. Aidan and Lydia decided this would be the ideal time to try out their new costumes – Aidan as Spiderman and Lydia as Cinderella. On the way across the street to Watson’s, Aidan and Lydia were quite excited. Aidan occasionally breaking out into spontaneous spidy moves. Once at Watson’s they gathered a fair amount of attention and stares. Aidan didn’t like it and began crying. Not the cry when he is angry or tired but the cry when he is really hurt with big, solid tears running down his cheeks. People nearby thought he had bumped his leg on something, but Yang new better. He immediately asked to go home. hua jia (回家) in Chinese over and over again. I held him and carried him home. Lydia was oblivious to the whole thing or at leased seems so. ...

The Beijing Marathon was supposed to start at Tiananmen Square and finish at finish at the National Stadium near the new Olympic park. But planning being what it is here, they overlooked that the national congress was meeting this week and had to re-arrange the route to both start and end at the National Stadium. Well, end there all except for the half marathon which I was entered in. My first challenge was to find the starting line. The sign at the entrance pointed left, so I went left. And left, and left, and left. I found the 5K starting line with loads of runners waiting. I went through and around them only to find the 10K starting line a few hundred yards ahead. I was starting to get desperate. I tried to go around the 10K starting line only to be stopped by a guard. Two japanese men also wanted past. The guard held is ground. We tried to explain we needed to be at the other starting line, to let us past. Out race jerseys and numbers indicated either full or half marathon. The guard did not understand nor did he wish to understand. A few more of us stranded marathoners gathered and with a push forced our way past the now two guards and to the marathon starting line. The race had just started so we joined, it was 8:15am. ...

Her brother has a friend who is opening a beauty saloon in the Asian Park section of Beijing, so she packed her bags – really just one – and left our family this morning. The beauty saloon represented a better opportunity and the chance to learn a skill that she can use when she returns to her hometown in a year or two. At least this is her plan. Everyone plans to be here a year or two. ...

I’m sitting on our bed watching the 2007 baseball playoff highlights. This is the first time I’ve watched baseball highlights in Beijing since I lived here. At least baseball highlights in English. And of American baseball, not Japanese baseball highlights shown during NHKs English news broadcast. The highlights come over the computer, on this new service called Joost, through a deal with MLB. It’s the only thing on Joost worth viewing. ...

It’s National Holiday week in China and we are driving in the outskirts of Beijing. The sky seems clear, the air seems fresh, but it is hard to tell once you’ve been in Beijing a while. Yihang, my mother in law, sits in the passenger seat. Yang and the kids are in the back. Yihang grows excited, which doesn’t typically takes much but in this case is justified. She recognizes the area we are in and says she has spent some time here. Turns out, as an intellectual, she was sent here during the cultural revolution for re-education. But she doesn’t describe it this way. Just that she came here, to the farms, and worked with the managers of the farms. If she bears a grudge or resentment of being taken away from her two small children (who were also sent away) and husband, she does not reveal it. ...

Learning Chinese is hard but sometimes you learn a new word instantly. We had just finished lunch at a farm north of Beijing (think really fresh food) and heard that there is a horse riding area near. So so we ask a parking attendant if he knows where. I shouldn’t say we, but Yang, since I never speak and even less so in Chinese even though I do know how to say “horses, where?” in Chinese. The problem is, with my tone deaf pronunciation my “horses, where?” might be interpreted as “mother, where?” or “asshole, where?” to which the reply might be “america” or “i’m looking at him”. ...

What’s in a name Dear students of boring topics. Today’s lesson is the street naming convention found around Beijing. To a foreigner, the names may seem a bit exotic or mysterious but once you break them down, they are quite boring. The strange thing is, it’s hard to get a local to break them down for you (like say my wife) but other foreigners are quite happy to. Let’s start with my address: 26 Chaowai Da Jie. Well, the 26 is easy enough. Let’s say you are on Chaowai and looking for #26. It is nowhere to be found. You ask the local security guard, where’s #26? He will have no idea. Even if you are speaking perfect Chinese (which you¡¯re not). Two problems here. First, and most important, Beijingers do not use address numbers. The use relative positions to known landmarks. So you would accurately describe my building’s location as across from Kuntai or down the street from Lan Bao. This, the guard would know. The second reason is my building isn’t actually on Chaowai. It’s one full city block south. A smaller street and a 30 story building, Kuntai, is between me and Chaowai. So good luck trying to find me by address. Mapquest would fart. Now onto the name. Chaowai is short for Chao Yang Men Wai. I don’t actually know what Chao Yang means. Strangely enough it’s the same name as my wife but the characters and tones are different. For that matter, I don¡¯t really know what my wife’s name means either except for the Yang part. But, hold on, I know all about the Men and the Wai part. Once there was a city wall around Beijing and every so often along this city wall were gates for people to pass thru. The wall itself was torn down in the 1950s to build a road called the second ring road. The road itself has since turned into a new type of wall, one that goes in the direction of traffic. But I digress. The word for gate is Men, hence the name Chao Yang Men describes the location where the Chao Yang gate once was. Now, onto the Wai part. Simple enough. Wai means “outside” as in outside of the wall. (laowai, are what foreigners are called, meaning old outsider). So a building on Chaowai means a building outside of the Chao Yang Men gate. Moving on. Da means big. Jie means street. So Chao Wai Da Jie, means the main street outside of Chao Yang Men. The word Nei means inside, so Chao Nei Da Jie, is the same street on the inner side of the second ring road. Make sense? If not, check your brain at the door. Ok, moving on to advanced lessons. A block north there is a street called Chao Wai Bei Da Jie. Can you figure out the Bei? What can I say, you are a genius. Bei is north. Anyway, the names go on like this with direction and size variations. North, south, small, large, outer, inner. So, the small street to the south would be Chao Wai Nan Xiao Jie. Nan being south and Xiao being small. The final trick is written Chinese doesn’t have spaces ¨C go figure ¨C so often the street names run together as in Chaowaidajie. Got it? Now you are ready for Beijng. ...